This Is How We Date Now

Photo from weheartit.com I don't know what it is, but I find love, dating, and relationships so fascinating. Maybe it's because I am always surrounded by it -- who knows! But lately I've just been very into reading articles about it just to hear different opinions on it. It's refreshing to see from someone else's perspective and how they few these topics. A few days ago I came across an article written by Jaime Varon called "This Is How We Date Now". She starts her article off by saying we don't commit now and that we don't see the point. As sad as that is, it's so very true. She goes on to talk about how "We think intimacy lies in a perfectly-executed string of emoji. We think effort is a "good morning" text. In this generation this is an exact description of how we see things when being in a relationship.  It's honestly insane how times have changed when it comes to dating. The whole article speaks of truth and is a really good read for anyone. If you'd like to read it (which I suggest you do) you can click Here. Comment below and tell me what you think about the article and dating in this day and age! Until next time..

College Relationship Tips

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Many people go into college and are excited for all the different types of relationships they will have. Most are looking forward to the romantic relationships they'll form while being there. Any relationship, whether while in college or not will have some ups and downs and being the month of February I thought it would be a good time to talk about college relationships. Single or taken, these tips will help you navigate your relationships as well as have a good college experience also!

1. Don't force a relationship. I see this happen so often to my friends and other college students that I think it should be the number 1 thing discussed. People end up in situations that leads to some type of hook-up and they feel like because that happened it's going to turn into something else. Don't feel obligated to call it a relationship just so you don't feel guilty about it. The possibility that a random hook-up might become your soulmate is - lets be honest here - slim to none. Before starting anything make sure it's what you really want or else it can cause a lot more trouble than needed.
2. Don't intend to "fix" someone. People aren't perfect, and that's just a fact. If you're going into a relationship knowing exactly what you're going to try to change about that person -- then maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship in the first place. It's hard to change something just because you want it, you can't control what people do and you should never try to.
3. Avoid mind games. If someone is playing mind games, or even trying to make you jealous.. RUN FAR AWAY. Mind games are not healthy and they're just a sign of immaturity. If you feel the need to play games then maybe it's not working out. Either try to work things out with the person by being honest or move on.
4. Go on dates. This may seem like the most obvious piece of advice to give but it seems to be the most forgotten part of DATING! Hanging out in a dorm room 24/7 can get boring real fast and eventually you will get tired of doing the same ole thing.You're in college, so go out and actually do things. Don't act like an old married couple when you're only 19.
5. Be independent from one another and make time for yourself. You should always be your biggest priority. Yes, it is nice to spend time with your significant other but not all of your time with him or her. Make time for your other friends and do separate activities from each other. One of the best things you can do in a relationship is make time for yourself.
6. Avoid comparisons. Most likely you and your significant other will have dated other people before and they will come up from time to time, and that is totally normal. But, if you're constantly talking about your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend you may end up making your significant other feel inadequate or just plain annoyed. There is a reason those relationships ended so let the past be the past.
7. Be open and honest. If there's something bothering you, then keeping it a secret isn't going to help anyone. If you're not comfortable being honest with this person or if they don't take you seriously then maybe this person is not for you. Lay your problems out on the table and you'll be able to see if the relationship will work out.
8. Manage your expectations. You're in college. Which means you're most likely pretty close to broke. Don't expect a prince charming to buy you whatever you want and to take you out on fancy dates. It's probably not going to happen. Make sure your expectations are in check and there will be less tension for the both of you.
9. Don't let your happiness depend on them. You're worth more than just the person you're dating and you shouldn't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you depend on them for your happiness then chances are you're going to get let down quite a bit. They should add to your happiness, not be your happiness.

Always remember that what works for one couple may or may not work for you as well. If you have any other tips for college relationship comment them down below!

Until next time..

The Whisper Challenge

My bestfriend and roommate Imani and I recently made a video called 'The Whisper Challenge'. I've watched a lot of videos like this on youtube and I enjoyed them because they were so funny! It's quite hilarious to watch people look ridiculous. So.. I thought why not try it myself?! It turned out to be a lot of fun for the both of us. I recommend it to anyone who sees this post and challenge others to do it. You'll have more fun than you think you will, I promise! 
Here's our video!

Until next time..

February Goals

February is here! Can you believe how fast the first month of the year went by? Because I definitely can not. I'm so happy that I can say that I made it through January though. It's always hard for me to get back to "real life" after the holiday season and especially after holiday break.. AKA 3 weeks off from school. Getting back into my normal schedule for school was a little rough but I have gotten the hang of it now, thankfully! 

This is my first time making a month goals post but I am excited to do so and to be able to look back and see what goals I accomplish at the end of the month. I wanted to start the year by doing a January goals post but it slipped my mind. SO here we are, starting with February. I believe that February is going to be a month full of goodness, I really do!

FEBRUARY GOALS 

1. Have a few social media free days. I want to be able to spend time to myself without scrolling through twitter or facebook.. and yes that means no scrolling through bloglovin either. (cue sad violin music)

2. Spend more quality time with my roommates. Because why not? I love them so much I just can't get enough of them!

3. Attend my life group every thursday this month. Let's be real here, I can always use a little more Jesus! And it makes it even better that I absolutely love my life leader Micah!

4. Write more letters. I have a few friends on missions and just out of state friends in general that I could be writing to, but I have constantly put it off. Not this month!

5. Continue working out at least 3-4 times a week. My health is important to me, and working out is apart of that. This month I hope to actually continue on the schedule I have been on and improve!

So there you have it. 5 goals and 25 days to complete them.  I hope that you all have some goals this month and I pray you keep the motivation to achieve them!
Comment below some goals you may have for this month, or even for this year! I would love to hear about them!
Until next time..